Deal Breaker
I know that in the last post I wrote about how there would be no need to write about how We didn’t make it. Cause it’s not in my heart that we won’t. However, there came a time when I had to admit that there was a Deal Breaker moment where I saw what would keep us apart.
No one is perfect. Knowing that, I believe that every person should be working towards being the best version of themselves they could possibly be. That’s what I’m doing in my own life. I thought that was what you were doing in your life as well.
Then the day came when I saw that you had not changed; you’d just covered up what you wouldn’t – maybe even couldn’t change right now. I’ve talked about how my Dad was an alcoholic. Growing up in that type of environment afforded me the insight to know that I didn’t want a man in my life who could not handle his alcohol.
You thought you were doing a good enough job hiding from the group we were with, but people noticed and even asked about you. I knew by the questions that were arising that you still drinking was the Deal Breaker for there ever being an US.
I recently heard it put this way about couples thinking they can change the other person in the relationship. When you have these values that you consider to be marriage material, you should choose the person that has those materials, not the person you have to put those materials into their life.
My Journey, My Story 