Loving Single – 8

“The question is the answer” from The Gift of Rejection with Nona Jones on Crystal Renee Hayslett podcast.

I know I may not have given much detail in my last post, however, at the time, I was still processing. I got more clarity as I watched the above referenced podcast when the statement was made: The question is the answer. Even when I would fantasize about the men that I wanted to become a part of my life, I would always have an inner question of “really?” Until YOU.

No worrying. No fear of rejection. Nothing. That’s what had me needing clarity; because it had been years since I’ve been this sure of wanting to be in a relationship with someone. Knowing that I was really ready to put in the work to get to know someone; and to be known by that someone. Receiving the insight and recognizing that I didn’t have an internal question dialogue with myself helped me put things in perspective about why the other relationships didn’t work: internally I knew. Externally, I just wanted to be in a relationship.

Now, here YOU are, and here I am. At the cusp of a new beginning for the both of us. Feeling each other out. Knowing our past hurts is what has each of us taking our time this time. Wanting to build a relationship, however, both of us knowing we need to depend on God to lead us this time around. I’m not saying that we are too old but I am saying that we are wiser: we don’t have time to waste and we don’t want to waste each other’s time.